I love good podcasts, trying new things and working towards goals, and I’ve got a lot to say about things I’ve learnt that worked (and didn’t). But I was reflecting this weekend on how much I really appreciate a normal weekend and hearing about people’s normal lives. When I get caught up in a doom scroll, see a lot of social media about people’s lives, transformations or amazing achievements, it can be exhausting. Where are all the normal people? Normal lives? Good days, bad days, chasing goals but also watching Netflix? Drinking too much wine and trying to get out more (or is that just me?) Being absolutely shattered by Friday as the week was manic?
And honestly — where are the people who spend their weekends answering endless questions from small people, repeatedly cleaning their kitchen and de-cluttering the next cupboard?
How much of what we see is even true now? Accounts I’ve started to follow recently have been the ones that feel real to me — genuine, helpful, real-life tips for things I’m working on, without feeling like I need to reach for the summit or completely change who I am. This is my weekend transformation… the washing is away!
Time to chill…
I’ve always known that the clearer I am about what I want, the easier the next steps have been. Clarity is king, and anything that helps me achieve that is welcomed. What I follow can help or hinder me on that front. One of my goals this year is to chill out more, quiet my mind, worry less and be in the present.
Appreciating the normal times and not comparing myself to big transformations also quiets my mind. So, for anyone thinking, what is normal? How does everyone have the energy to create magical weekends every week? — this weekend consisted of a monkey-business play date, food shopping, washing, a haircut (salon time was bliss), a bit of series-watching with a glass of red, and a dinner with all the women in my family to celebrate a birthday. That’s actually quite a full one too! Some weekends are simply catching up on the house jobs, popping to the library and getting out for some fresh air.
In amongst that, I’m still taking some time to pause and write my thoughts — not in pursuit of a goal, but because I enjoy emptying my busy brain. Sometimes doing something just because is enough. Does it always have to be going somewhere?
A couple of tips for embracing the benefits of a normal weekend:
- Notice the small wins. Clean sheets, a quiet cup of tea, or finally tackling the washing pile all count.
- Watch what you watch: Follow people who make you feel grounded, not pressured. If it doesn’t quiet your mind, it doesn’t get your attention.
- Let “just because” be enough. Not everything needs a purpose or a transformation. Some of the best moments are the ones no one else ever sees.
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